Fathers - Words of Wisdom

Written By: Chip Rudolph ~ 6/12/2023

Mothers provide unconditional love. You do not have to deserve it.

Fathers are more particular. Children need to earn a father’s love. Fathers do not show their love the same way that mothers do, nor do they teach lessons the same as mothers do.

When first learning these family tidbits, it seemed unfair. A family counselor helped me view the matter differently. They explained that a mother represents family, home, and the extended family of unconditional love. The father represents the outside world. In the workplace or the community at large, no one evaluates you with an understanding of what you might be enduring. They judge you by what you accomplish, produce, or by your behavior. These two opposing methods help each of us prepare for adulthood.

• Fathering is a man’s second chance at living.
  A father might not have had wealth or opportunity. He will often work hard so that his children are afforded those opportunities and to make a path for his children to thrive.
  
  
• One father is worth 100 Schoolmasters.
  Whether in career, home projects, or games, a father will teach his children preparedness, good sportsmanship, safety, and procedures for the successful completion of any task.
  
  
• Fathers don’t tell you how to live. They live and let you watch them do it.
  Doing things together is how a father shows his feelings. He passes on lessons by example.
  
  
• A father carries his children’s pictures where his money used to be.
  Some fathers feel pride and deep emotion when sharing pictures of their children with others. Class pictures, sports pictures, or award presentations are items carried at all times. Children do not always even know dad is spreading the word about them. Since it is not discussed, they are often unaware of Dad’s feelings.
  
  
• Dads are ordinary men turned by love into Heroes, Adventurers, Storytellers, and Singers
  A father’s love might manifest in many ways. Situations never encountered will come alive when a father is overwhelmed by love for his children. For some, there are no boundaries or limits to their actions.
  
  
• Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad.
  Children are born in many ways: in-vitro fertilization, sperm donation, cloning, and other scientific accomplishments. Many men provide the necessary ingredients to create a child. Being a “technological” father or biological father is not that difficult. Doing the daily work of providing for a child, being there for problems, and providing guidance for a child’s well-being is another matter.

Fathers give us blueprints for living. They were originally hunters and gatherers (Ancient women were gatherers and men hunters. Right? Wrong). Their example paved the road for success, learning, and living a more noble life.

Monthly, Words of Wisdom are presented From the Corner Home Office: proverbs and oral history have been passed on since ancient times. We still live by these lessons today.

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